Tuesday, July 16, 2013

Liz - Part 3: Embrace the Crazy!

Click these links if you'd like to catch up on the July's Momster of the Month, Liz:

As you know by now, Liz is one busy momma! Keep reading, Liz has some excellent advice for anyone who may be feeling overwhelmed!  Between caring for five adorable kiddos, and operating her successful online business, I asked Liz how she manages to get anything else done. She says we all make time for the things at are important to us, and she has three things that are top priority in her life:
Her religion
Her family
Her business 
Notice how she didn't say "a clean house" or "my yard".  Liz says "as a result, my yard is overgrown with weeds, and my floors are often covered in crumbs and toys everywhere".  She makes a great point, in that "if you spend time doing one thing, you are going to sacrifice something else.  That's just how life is.  Only you can make the decision as to what is most important in your life.  I choose to spend time taking care of my family, working on my website, and serving and participating in church activities.  I usually feels like there are not enough hours in the day to get everything done, but I do my best, and that's all I can do."
Liz and her husband really try to teach their children to be independent.  Their older kids are responsible for getting their own breakfast, making their own school lunches, getting themselves ready for school, and helping out the little kids whenever needed. She has the big kids help with laundry and dishes, and the little kids help folding towels, wiping the table, and putting silverware away. If she had to do it all, there is "NO WAY" she would be able to get anything done around the house! "It's all about teamwork."
Routine is also very important in their household.  "Summers are really REALLY hard...the only thing that sticks is naptime.  All my friends know that from 1-4 pm, you DO NOT ring our doorbell and you do not call!  This definitely helps me keep my sanity!"
I love the honest advice Liz received from her sister Jenny:
"She is the mother of 6 and a woman I really look up to and admire.  One thing she said that has really stuck with me...is 'embrace the crazy'.  Life is crazy, no matter how many kids you have.  Having one child is crazy!  We all look to other moms and think 'wow, they are wonder woman.  How do they do it all?'  Little do you know that they are looking at YOU wondering the exact same thing!  You are better than you realize and are doing a great job.  Just embrace the crazy and let life take you where it will!"
Liz was complaining to a friend who was visiting about how dirty her house was, and received another piece of wisdom. 
"THIS can wait, your children can't!  We will only have our little ones for a short period of time and it's easy to get caught up worrying about how dirty your house is....there will be a time when you can spend hours cleaning your house, but there won't be another time when you will have your little ones around you."
I adore that advice!  It's so easy to get overwhelmed with the goal of living up to the routine I had pre-child, and how difficult it is to maintain now. Liz agrees, "I TRY to tell myself this...Most days I'm sure I've failed at being a parent, but as I look back...there are small moments of time where I was an incredible mom!  I try to remember that."
I asked Liz what helps her keep her joy and sanity intact, and what encouraging words she has for anyone feeling overwhelmed or burned out:
Take time doing something you love - "Just because you are a mom, doesn't mean you are JUST a mom.  I am a wife, a mother, a daughter, a friend, a musician, a business woman.  At least one night a week, I will head out the thrift store and just browse.  It is relaxing to me...Sometimes I find a treasure, but most often I leave empty handed, but rejuvenated."  Liz also tries to get a massage each month, and recently played in the orchestra in a church production of the play Annie.
It is not selfish to do something for yourself - "You have to take care of yourself before you can take care of others.  Your own water jar has to be filled in order for you to share your water with others."
Take time off - "Whether you are religious or not...have one day a week where you make it different from the other days.  We spend Sundays as a family.  We attend church, play games together, work together to make meals, and go for walks.  I don't work on my website or Ebay, we don't go shopping or to restaurants, we don't run errands and do the bare minimum around the house.  I think this is SO important!"
I hope Liz was able to provide some encouragement to any overwhelmed and uncertain Momster reading this!  Just remember...EMBRACE THE CRAZY!, you are doing a fabulous job momma :)
*   *   Have you entered the Fly Belly Maternity Wear giveaway yet?!   *   *
Contest ends this Friday, July 19th, so send your prego-self (or a friend with a baby bump) on over and enter to win a free maternity shirt from Liz!

No comments:

Post a Comment

I'd love to hear your thoughts!